Cómo identificar y afrontar los estilos afectivos de los cuales sería mejor no enamorarse. ¿Por qué fallamos tanto en el amor? Creemos que el amor es infalible y olvidamos algo elemental para la supervivencia amorosa: no todas las propuestas afectivas son convenientes para nuestro bienestar. Este libro va dirigido a cualquier persona que quiera revisar su vida afectiva y hacer del amor una experiencia satisfactoria. No encontrarás aquí las mejores reglas para vivir con tal o cual estilo, más bien lograrás establecer espacios de reflexión para comprender mejor tu relación de pareja. Evita estos 10 estilos afectivos.
I have written this guide in order to help you create a space for reflection within your life and as a result develop emotional and cognitive strategies that can make you more resistant to love-sickness. Once you learn exactly why we absurdly equate love to suffering, you´ll know how to avoid falling into the trap and learn to foster more adaptive schemes of behaviour. Through the concepts of philosophy, psychology and his 30 years plus of experience as a therapist, in the 39 chapters of this book, Walter Riso guides us through a model or scheme of reflection to help us understand the characteristics of a love that is good (healthy, coherent, constructive) and one that is bad (sick, incoherent, destructive).
Author: Walter Riso
These pages constitute a call to restore the balance of mind and body, by rescuing one of our most valuable resources, one that we find more and more regulated and discredited every day. In the expert opinion of the therapist Walter Riso, rational intelligence is one of the greatest adaptive tools that humans can count on, and thank for their daily survival. Nonetheless, this does not guarantee equilibrium, internal harmony, or physical and psychological health. It is necessary to complement this part of one's self with the innate power and wisdom that inhabits our emotions. This book shows us how to integrate these components in a constructive manner and to take advantage of them for our benefit.
“Activating your self-love is the first step towards any type of psychological growth and personal improvement. Of course I am not talking about the dark side of self-esteem, which leads to narcissism and fascination with the ego, but rather about having a genuine ability to, fearless and unashamedly, recognize your strengths and virtues, integrate them into the development of your own life..." In this guide, Dr. Walter Riso teaches us about the tools we need to help bolster our self-esteem; he teaches us to feed our self-love, freeing us from dependencies and stripping away all those things that weigh heavily on us. This, in turn, enables us to build our own happiness.
Being emotionally independent does not mean that you have to stop being loving, It is about being the master of your own feelings, faithful to your own principles and never handing over your personal dignity to someone else in exchange for something, not even in the name of love. Do I you love or do I depend? If this is a question you ask yourself, then this guide, based on the bestseller, To Love or to Depend? is for you. In it, Walter Riso teaches us, in a practical manner and without too much theory involved, the steps we need to take in order to be able to love without being emotionally dependent. He provides ideas and processes that will help you develop the right skills to deal with emotional dependency, prevent it and/or create a lifestyle aimed at emotional independence and affective detachment.
When you are assertive, you are actively exercising and/or defending your rights: saying no, expressing disagreement, giving a contrary opinion and/or expressing concrete negative feelings without submissively allowing yourself to be manipulated or aggressively violating the rights of others. If you are afraid of hurting other people’s feelings by being honest, if you are not able to express your anger or a conflicting opinion in a way that is socially acceptable, or if you feel that others humiliate and manipulate you.
Why are there so many failed relationships? How do you explain disappointment? Can we suffer less from love? To what extent are our achievements and setbacks our own responsibilities? Through these pages, Walter Riso reveals an approach to intrapersonal relationships, explaining the reasons why, in many cases, they become a source of insecurity, depression, and stress, instead of producing peace, contentment, and joy. In agreement with the author, one of the largest problems of our time has to do with the unrealistic image we have of love. For Riso, conventional love is formed by a series of idealizations and false beliefs that don t correspond with the facts. We have converted this feeling of contentment into an absolute myth."
The stereotype of masculinity imposed on us by cultural norms is contradictory, absurd, and limits human affection. This model confronts social demands with personal needs, which is difficult to break free from without being branded as weak, cowardly, or a failure. Using this as a starting point in his clinical experiences and analysis of contemporary reality, the cognitive therapist Walter Riso puts these assumptions that govern our understanding of "masculinity" into question. This book, aimed primarily at women, shows how the archetype we have created is not only an impossible idealization, but it also causes emotional imbalance that sometimes harm individuals and affect their relationships within their families.
WHAT A MAN'S GOTTA DO… J. D. Turner couldn't let Tally select a mate without understanding how things should be between a man and a woman. Especially since the innocent beauty was going to be raising his little boy! So he took it upon himself to show her just how life and real love could be. Tally Smith had a plan to find the right man to marry and create the perfect family for little Jed. That is, until J.D. kidnapped her on the premise that he was going to show her what she and Jed really needed. Well, she had a little news for him—what this woman and child needed was him!
As understood by psychologist Walter Riso, one of the keys to living better is to accept ourselves as we are, despite our faults, to learn to live with them and compensate them with our strengths. In his most recent book, Riso proposes cognitive keys to accept every aspect of our personalities, to understand how it affects our social, love, and work life, and to strive to improve our performance every day. Without self-acceptance and a high self-esteem, it is not possible to garner a deep knowledge of ourselves as it is a key to our happiness as human beings.
The human mind is capable of believing in the most dazzling paradise, but also in the most terrible hell. In our brain -- more than in reality-- we find many of the factors that determine our afflictions and our happiness. Walter Riso explains to us the manner in which we process the information that is crucial to reach our wellbeing. Thinking rationally, without falling into illusions or beliefs without reason, results in not only successfully confronting life, but also causes us to be happier by maintaining our psychological health and achieving self-realization. This book invites you to recognize the traps that our minds set, and to have the courage to face our existence as it is, without distortions or false tranquilities.
El Camino de los Sabios
Author: Walter Riso
Publisher: Oceano De Mexico
¿Qué nos pueden enseñar los grandes filósofos? Figuras como Sócrates, Platón, Epicuro, Epicteto, Diógenes y otros pensadores grecolatinos se mantienen vigentes y aún tienen mucho que decirnos no solamente sobre las cuestiones fundamentales que han inquietado al ser humano durante siglos (la vida, la muerte, la libertad), sino también sobre infinidad de problemas cotidianos que nos preocupan a todos. Walter Riso, reconocido psicólogo y gran conocedor de los clásicos, nos sorprende con una obra accesible que trae hasta nosotros la sabiduría de aquellos que se interrogaron sobre la mejor manera de vivir y amar. Desde la convicción de que las ideas de estos maestros poseen una actualidad indudable, la obra contiene un caudal de sabiduría imperecedera que nos ayudará a entender mejor la realidad y a desenvolvernos de manera más adecuada en ella.
Enamórate de Ti
Author: Walter Riso
Publisher: Oceano De Mexico
No puede haber mejoramiento personal sin autoestima. Para el terapeuta cognitivo Walter Riso, autor de algunos de los libros de psicología práctica más influyentes de los últimos años, amarse a uno mismo constituye un factor imprescindible para el desarrollo de nuestro potencial como individuos. No sólo contribuye al crecimiento interior, sino que se convierte en un elemento clave para alcanzar la felicidad, el bienestar y la salud. Pero esto no es todo: también representa el punto de referencia que nos permite amar a los demás y recibir amor de ellos. Este libro, nueva edición corregida del clásico Aprendiendo a quererse a sí mismo, está dirigido a todos aquellos cuya visión negativa de su propia persona los ha llevado a creer que son poco dignos de aprecio e incapaces de grandes logros. Frente a ello, Riso nos invita a reconocer, sin vergüenza ni falsa modestia, las fortalezas y virtudes que poseemos, nuestro valor como individuos y el derecho que tenemos a amar y ser amados.
Many of the doubts, fears, and concerns of today are the same that afflicted men and women in the recent past. Indeed, fundamental questions, those that touch the deepest root of human beings have not changed substantially and continue to occupy our thoughts and in some cases, taking away our dreams. The renowned and successful psychotherapist Walter Riso invites us to learn the answers to those scholars who were questioned about the best way to live, love, and be happy. This elegant new edition is an extraordinary tool for all those who, far from being content with things are they are, strive to be better every day.
How many times do we say "yes" when we would rather say "no"? Why do we submit ourselves to unbecoming situations and controlling individuals when we can avoid them? Why do we stay quiet when we should be talking, and feel guilty when we exert our rights? In this illuminating book, Walter Riso, a well-known cognitive therapist, reminds us that respect for oneself is one of the most precious traits of a human being. It is, also, a fundamental factor to guard our psychological health and our spiritual well-being. When someone is treated in an unjust manner, when their dignity is trampled on or humiliated, they usually respond in a submissive of aggressive way. The author invites us to consider a third option: assertiveness. This is the ability of an individual to defend their personal rights with decisiveness, without yielding to or reacting in a violent way.